Google search - Forget, Forgive & Respect

今日我又偷閒地上google search野。今次我search 個字係"Forgive", "Respect", "Forget", "尊重", "包容", "原諒"。找到很多特別的文章，而且我發現英文字那邊，"Forgive"有好幾個網站介紹，反而"Respect" & "Forgive" 就沒有特別的文章。中文字那邊，"原諒"搜尋到的都是『誰誰誰，原諒我吧！』或者是歌詞，而"尊重", "包容"要合起來search才找到有意思的文章。

搵到一個介紹"forgiveness"書的網站。呢本書當然係基督教人士寫的，有關心靈的書都好似係教會人士寫的多，『心靈雞湯』又係"Tuesday with Morrie相約星期二"都好似係。

for‧give - to stop being angry with someone and stop blaming them, although they have done something wrong
原諒是什麼？
雖然他們做錯事，不過不再對他們發怒，而且停止責怪他們的行為。

Q: What is the true meaning of forgiveness? When I say, "I forgive," what am I saying?

A: If you ever had your feelings hurt and you forgave the person for it, and, inside of you, you allowed them the chance to hurt your feelings again, then you really did forgive them.You entered into real, true forgiveness because you allowed them the opportunity to come back to you again. That's forgiveness. But if you remember who they were and what they said and what they did and the time they did it, and if you say you forgave them, you didn't.We don't really forgive when we still have the feeling of the memory of the hurt.

問﹕原諒的真正意思是什麼？當我說﹕『我原諒你』實際上我所指的是什麼意思呢？

答﹕如果你曾經被傷害過，而你又願意原諒他，並且在你的深心處，容許他們有機會再次傷害你。那麼，你就是真正的原諒他們了。因為你給他們機會再回到你的身邊。不過，如果你記得他們是誰，而他們曾經在什麼時候、用什麼說話及方法來傷害你，而你說你已經原諒他們了，其實你並沒有。如果我們還記住傷害的話，我們就不能真正的原諒。

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我對那個答案有一點疑惑。如果我記得那個人在那個時候、說那種話以及用那種方法來傷害我的話，就不是真正的原諒嗎？我記得大部份受傷害的情形，也記得很多我傷害了別人的情形，那是不是我沒有真正的原諒他們、原諒自己呢？這些特別傷心或者懊悔的時刻，會忘得掉嗎？